Romantic kisses under the moon and serenades under the window that we see on TV are not quite what we call love. First of all, this is respect and patience for each other. But it is much easier to destroy relationships than to create and maintain them. So, what does ruin relationships?
Attempts To Change Your Partner
You mistakenly believe that changing the behavior of another person, we can improve relationships. Each person is an individual. And, of course, something may not quite please the people around us. But in attempts to change a partner according to one’s own worldview, it can endanger the existence of this relationship. Of course, small requests are permissible and normal. But, most importantly, don’t overdo it. Attempts to change one person, especially divorced women, will be futile. You will encounter a wall of resistance because it’s difficult to understand why you need to change and whether it’s worth it. A particular lifestyle formed in childhood. So, it is unlikely to change people. It is incomprehensible and strange for them.
Manifestations Of Attention And Interest In The Opposite Sex
As a rule, it is men who forget that they are in relationships, and they begin to pay attention to other women. Their darling is unlikely to encourage it, and this can cause a very big scandal or separation. If you want to maintain a relationship for a long time, then try to avoid situations that will make your soulmate feel jealous.
Constant Quarrels
People very rarely have one point of view at one situation. Of course, there will be quarrels; they can’t be avoided. In any family, any relationship, there are situations that can’t do without a quarrel. But quarrels don’t seem strange. This is one of the parts of a successful and happy relationship. But there is one thing: it is important not to miss and cross that line in order to save relationships. Don’t focus on quarrels and insults.
Inability To Forgive
All people make mistakes. You must be able to forgive and put yourself in the shoes of another person. Don’t save anger and resentment. It will bring nothing but harm, quarrels, stress, and poor health. Forgiving, you will save the relationship and strengthen their foundation.
Absorption Of Each Other
In a relationship, many lovers make a mistake when they try to dissolve in each other. The adjustment of the life of one under the other begins. As a result, absorption occurs, and people begin to “devour” each other. This relationship becomes unhealthy and conflicting. Interest and novelty disappear, and everything is becoming boring. True love is the union of two full-fledged personalities.
Rash Actions
We often make such a mistake in our relationships – we make or say something without thinking about what our words or actions can lead to and whether we really need to say or do it. Usually, we realize that we made a mistake when it is too late – after all, words and actions can’t be canceled if they have already been said and committed. As a result, our relationships are spoiled, and we break up.
Selfishness
This is one of the most devastating mistakes we make in a relationship. Since childhood, we get used to receiving gifts or attention from other people without giving anything in return and even begin to think that other people owe us simply because we are so nice. But sooner or later, such behavior leads to a breakdown in relationships since no one will give endlessly without receiving anything in return, even if these relations are very important to a person.